Couples and individual counseling Bodensee
-heterosexual & homosexual couples-
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also in
english
"Happiness is love, nothing else. He who can love is happy."
(Hermann Hesse)
Oliver Watz
positive - empathtic - clear
Couples Therapist I Coach with a focus on change processes
In the sense of the systemic approach, I have a positive view of human beings, which is characterised by respect and appreciation, the view and action of the individual.
I am a father (1 daughter, 2 sons ), patchworker, friend, leader, manager, coach, learner, free spirit and have many other roles.
What makes me stand out?
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Positive and curious
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Life-experienced and practice-oriented
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Empathic and mentally fixed/flexible
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Pragmatic and crisis tested
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Enthusiastic and dynamic
Important to me are:
Attentiveness, appreciation, eye level, respect, openness, trust and freedom of thought in every form.
WHY COUPLES COUNSELING?
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There is a crisis, you are arguing and need neutral help and support?
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You are hurt because your partner is having an affair?
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The lightness has been lost and you doubt yourself and your relationship?
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Do you want butterflies in your stomach and joy in your relationship again?
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Tenderness and a fulfilling sexuality have been lost or no longer take place?
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You are in the process of separation and don't want a war of the roses to protect your children?
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You don't know what to do next and would like to move on or make a new start?
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You seem to speak different languages?
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You are doing well and want to take your relationship to the next level?
COUPLES COUNSELING/THERAPY
Love is wonderful ... but sometimes, unfortunately, there are times or phases, when it can be very difficult and also hurtful.
Our life and thus our relationship/marriage is in constant motion and conflicts cannot be avoided. But that does not mean that positive changes are not possible. Each partner can contribute to this.
In systemic integrative couple therapy you can recognise and work on your personal concerns and challenges in the respective couple's overall context.
You have decided to work on your relationship and seek support in the form of couples counselling/therapy.
What added value can I offer you?
Based on a positive view of human beings, I support you with creative systemic methods to question and, if necessary, change ingrained patterns of thinking and behaviour.
Support means a chance for personal development, the willingness to take new perspectives and to see oneself, the partner and/or the family with different eyes.
This often leads to new solutions and completely new perspectives or a deeper understanding of your partner's needs.
There is no truth, only different perceptions.
What sounds trivial has a special meaning in a partnership. Every couple has its own dynamics and its own couple history, which is why there are also fluctuations in the relationship.
Further development & status quo, harmony and injuries, distance & closeness, approach & demarcation, free space and togetherness, you experience all this in your relationship.
Change is often experienced as a threat. Seeing this as a wonderful opportunity for mutual development is an opportunity to take your relationship to the next level.
The possible change is initially up to each person themselves, only you can influence their behaviour (your partner's is not in their hands). To this end, we will work together in a resource-oriented way, with the aim of rediscovering yourself and becoming stronger together.
Separation instead of reconciliation is possible in couples counselling, but should always be the last and never the first option. Hurts can heal, their love and relationship can blossom anew. It is up to you and I am happy to support you in this.
COUPLES COUNSELLING OR COUPLES THERAPY
Basically, it should be mentioned that I use the terms synonymously.
Briefly explained in terms of content, both Couples Counselling & Couples Therapy, have the common goal of supporting couples to overcome their challenges in the relationship.
The differences result from:
Couples counselling, or called marriage counselling, is a form of coaching that helps couples solve communication problems, develop understanding and empathy, and resolve disputes, among other things. The focus is often in the "here and now" and is on current challenges and attempts to develop concrete strategies and solutions.
Couples therapy, called couples psychotherapy or family therapy, goes deeper and addresses psychological issues that significantly affect the relationship. It can address issues such as depression, anxiety, addiction or trauma that one or both partners have experienced.
PROCEDURE
After the first telephone contact, we clarify the assignment or your wishes in the couple counselling in the first meeting. The duration of the appointments is 90 or 120 minutes. Separate individual appointments are possible and also common and take place according to individual agreement.
As a rule, we will meet every 2 to 4 weeks, depending on the urgency. The frequency is very different and varies from couple to couple.
The costs for couples counselling are not covered by health insurance and insurance companies. The investment in their marriage/relationship will always be "worth it" in any case and bears no relation to the costs of a possible divorce/separation.
OFFERS
I offer so-called "emergency" appointments, which I will make possible at short notice within 3 days.
Should you spend your holidays at Lake Constance, there is the possibility to have several intensive couple sessions during the holiday weeks. The charm is that in a relaxed atmosphere, with ample couple time, possible developmental issues can be tackled in a targeted way.
There is also the possibility of online counselling.
I also offer a 4's setting with a colleague, i.e. two couples counsellors look after you as a couple. The advantage here is the very balanced woman/man perspective, which ensures a neutral position of all critical couple aspects at all times.
The complete couples counselling can also take place in English, if this should be more suitable for you.
PATCHWORK
You have decided to live in a patchwork family. The initial euphoria crumbles and many challenges arise from:
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Unclear roles e.g. stepfather / stepmother involved in raising the non-birth child or disagreement on parenting issues.
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Non-existent emotional ties (there is resistance and tension)
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Jealousy and competitive thinking
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Difficulty in organising everyday life (e.g. visitation arrangements)
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Dealing with the past (divorce, quarrels, etc.)
Establishing a successful patchwork family requires time, patience and understanding. Important aspects that we discuss together here are open communication (formulating fears and wishes), a special focus on the needs of the children, strengthening the sense of "we" (but also autonomy), establishing clear roles and the aspects of tolerance and respect.
Patchwork can succeed! Let us work on this.
ONLINE COUNSELLING
Counselling via online call can be a good solution if:
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You live as a couple in different places or are abroad.
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the day care centre is closed or your babysitter has cancelled
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You are not mobile for personal reasons
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Systemic Integrative Couples Therapist, with Friederike von Tiedemann at the Hans Jellouscheck Institute in Freiburg, Germany
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Systemic coach & consultant with a focus on change management, with Dr. Ruth Seliger trainconsulting in Vienna
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Coach & Consultant with a focus on person-centred coaching, with Dr. Christoph Röckelein at the University of Education in Freiburg
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THETA-Seminar trainings with Dieter Lange in Hamburg
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Several weeks of time-out stays in a monastery
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Studied business administration in Frankfurt/Main and Mannheim (Dipl. Betriebswirt & Dipl. Kaufmann).
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More than 25 years of experience as a senior management executive in various functions and industries, nationally and internationally, current position Vice-President Controlling Business-Partner & Performance-Management, industry Pharma
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Lecturer at the University of Mannheim and the Reutlingen University of Applied Sciences
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Member of the German Association for Systemic Therapy, Counselling and Family Therapy (DGSF) and the ICV and its working groups